Self-love is the belief you hold that you are a valuable and worthy person. An example of self love is when you have a positive view of yourself and are confident in yourself and your place in the world.
Self-love is different to self-esteem. Self-esteem is about how we feel about ourselves. ‘Self’ points to the subject being our identity. But if setbacks and strokes of fate have to be coped with, self-esteem easily drops.
Self-love, in contrast, is defined as the all-embracing acceptance and boundless love of ourselves, no matter what happens, good or bad.
I want you to understand the difference so you don’t short-change yourself by mistaking self-esteem for self-love. I believe that while you can have good self-esteem without loving yourself fully, self-love is usually accompanied by good self-esteem.
I’ve worked with coaching clients who were confident in one area of their lives and thought that was also self-love. But they didn’t treat themselves lovingly.
From what I’ve seen, having good self-esteem is more prevalent than loving yourself. And you can have good self-esteem in some areas of your life and not in others. You might be confident about work but not your social skills. Or you might attract people with your good looks but don’t feel smart or skilful. You might feel fabulous behind a computer but not in real life. Or you’re a great communicator with people you know but freeze in a group of strangers. When you love yourself, you accept yourself with those shortcomings and it improves your overall self-esteem.
Here are 9 quotes on self love to inspire you and a wonderful webinar on self love to develop it for yourself.
— Jenny Garrett (@JenniferGarrett) November 18, 2017
6 days of self-love – day 6!
— Jenny Garrett (@JenniferGarrett) September 25, 2017
— Jenny Garrett (@JenniferGarrett) September 24, 2017
6 days of self-love – day 4
Do you love yourself enough to forgive yourself?
— Jenny Garrett (@JenniferGarrett) September 23, 2017
6 days of self-love – day 2!
— Jenny Garrett (@JenniferGarrett) September 21, 2017
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