How often do you deeply reflect on your experience?
My definition of reflection is ‘thinking with purpose.’ I was curious to find out how others see it, so posted the question on LinkedIn and here are some of the responses that I received, that resonated with me.
With all that’s happening in the world, I believe that this is a time for conscious reflection. As a woman of colour and a human being, I have been shocked and saddened at the news of the death of George Floyd in the USA at the hands of a white policeman, and the events that have unfurled since.
The news that Belly Mujinga, 47, died with Covid-19 on 5 April, was working at Victoria station when she was assaulted and that the person who spat at her wasn’t prosecuted. The fact that people from ethnic minorities are up to 50% more likely to die from coronavirus than white people in the UK.
The purpose of my reflection right now is to consider what I can do to end the injustice, inequality and oppression that clearly exists in the world. I read Professor Ibram X Kendi’s book earlier in the year “How to be an anti-racist.’ At the heart of the book is the message that there is no state of being ‘not racist’ instead we are either ‘racist’ or ‘anti-racist’ no matter what our heritage.
So for me reflection is active, it leads to new knowledge and action taking, it isn’t the passive activity that I think comes to mind for many.
So how can you reflect? Here are my 5 top tips:
- Use Stimuli like objects, artefacts, art, literature which connect to individuals’ views and experiences of their world to be a generative source of reflection, suggests Vijaya Nath.
- Ask Questions such as ‘Is what I plan to do or what I have done from a place of love or fear?’ suggests Andrea Watts. Asking the right type of questions to help find the best solution. e.g, “What did I benefit from today?” and “How could I have managed that interaction or situation better?” Always write your thoughts down to help track your progress. Or as Anjana Nathwani suggests, you might reflect on what you are grateful for, a favourite practice of mine.
- Time to reflect is crucial. Blocking time out helps to ensure that you reflect consistently. Sunday mornings work for me.
- Solitude frees the mind up from all the distractions of everyday life and allows it to focus more fully on one thing. Select a place where you can’t be disturbed or distracted so that you can concentrate fully on your reflection.
- Honesty increases your awareness of what you are really thinking. Your reflections are for you and you only and so provide an opportunity to be uncensored and truly honest with yourself.
My wish – that deep reflection at this time can lead us to ask ourselves the tough questions and take action to be better. Not just for ourselves but for the good of all.
Deep reflection for me is the foundation for change… that’s where the change starts. It starts with a pause and self-awareness … the question… sensing more deeply what’s going on… not shying away from feeling it …