Imagine yourself in an episode of Dr Who, some aliens, Darleks or Cybermen chasing after you. You run into a room, shut the door behind you. The room has curved walls and a number of doors, as you try each door, one by one, you realise that they are all locked. Even the door you entered the room through. How would you feel: trapped, angry, scared, and frustrated?
You may have felt this feeling before, or be experiencing it right now. Because sometimes there really doesn’t seem like there are alternatives open to you. It feels like you are in that room with the walls closing in and no way out.
Maybe you’re fed up of your job, but after searching can’t find an alternative that will pay the same, or provide the same lifestyle for your dependents.
Perhaps you are tied into a relationship that it feels would be too painful to untangle yourself from.
Possibly your health and wellbeing needs to be improved, but other commitments take priority.
And as a result you can feel frustrated, stuck, paralysed, backed into a corner. I guess if this is the case you’ve been seeking advice. Most of the time what you would have heard is:
Life’s short, take a risk
Take a leap of faith
…..And it might have worked.
But…. The solution could also be to sit it out and accept that this is where you are right now, not forever but just right now.
So what do you so to alleviate the pain, while waiting?
It’s important to recognise that although you may be forced to remain motionless on the outside, you can always develop on the inside.
You can do this through by becoming empowered through self-knowledge, even when conditions severely limit your ability to act.
It’s essential to identify that freedom is not just external but internal also – you can free yourself from the inside out.
1. Cultivate Patience
Patience requires a change of attitude. This cannot always happen with the flip of a switch. A great way to create a new attitude is to ask yourself, “What’s the bigger picture here?” This creates a state of productive curiosity that helps you to realize how many good things often happen over time. When you broaden your perspective, you interrupt old patterns of impatience, which immediately opens the door to a fresh, new attitude.
2. Share Your Vision
You can share your vision for a brighter future with others, they may help you find opportunities for change. The process of sharing it in discussion with others can help you gain clarity and alternative perspectives.
3. Think With Purpose
You could journal playfully about ways in which you could be free of your current situation. This process helps you become more in touch with your thoughts and can help you to think creatively. Scientific evidence supports that the act of writing accesses your left brain, which is analytical and rational. While your left brain is occupied, your right brain is free to create. Writing removes mental blocks and allows you to use all of your brainpower to better understand yourself, others and the world around you.
The door may not open, but something unexpected will happen, the walls may come down, the roof may lift off or an underground tunnel will be revealed.
Give it a try. There will be a way out of no way.
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